Here it comes . . . turkey lurkey day!

I am gearing up for Thanksgiving. I am hosting for the first time . . . EVER! As much as I love to cook, I am deathly afraid of putting on a big holiday meal for others. I think it's as much to do with cleaning my house as it is making a meal to please. I am such a perfectionist when it comes to stuff like this that I'm also so afraid of the timing. How the heck am I supposed to have everything warm and ready at the same time? Here's my menu, so far (recipes to come later):

Turkey

(No surprise there! I plan on brining and using a nice little foil tent a la Alton Brown.)

Dressing

(I make the one I grew up eating - made from sweet cornbread, celery, green onions, and lots of goodness - butter, eggs, and half & half)

Squash Casserole - maybe

(I make this every year, but no one seems to like it as much as I do. I am leaning toward replacing it with Spoon Bread)

Pumpkin Pie

(I used to like pumpkin pie. But last year I discovered an amazing pumpkin pie recipe, and now I LOVE pumpkin pie. Elsie does too and asks for it in the middle of the summer.)

My maybe list includes:

Peas, please

(We've always had LeSeur peas. Piece of cake to make: Heat peas. Add butter.)

Salad

(My family has always had a basic yummy salad: romaine, green onions, yummy homemade vinagrette, but I'm not sure I can do it as well as they can.)

Bread

(I made the NYT bread cooked in a Dutch Oven recently and it was phenomenal. I think I may branch out and make hearty dinner rolls in a similar fashion. Or I'll just get someone to bring Sister Schubert's rolls.)

What Melissa is bringing:

Sweet potatoes

(This is a staple with most, but I never had it growing up. I love it now.)

Hot spinach casserole

(Again, never ate it growing up, but now I LOVE spinach!)

What should I add? Some nuts to start? Champagne cocktails? Cranberry sauce? (Is that a must?) What do you *have* to have at your Thanksgiving meal?